Anatomy of a Move - pt. 4
Part IV - Originally Penned on 2/23/2024
On Monday, February 20th, 2023 – President’s Day, I went to check out an apartment available nearby. It was in a complex I had been spying fairly frequently in passing. It was on the way to and from the home of two of my favorite people who I spent many days a week with when things were slow at work. It seemed clean and quiet and established. I looked up the rents online and it was just barely within my budget, but within. Rents in Los Angeles and the surrounding areas are sky high. But I couldn’t wait any longer. The relationship with my roommate was becoming more and more strained by the day. My patience was thinning to the point where I had screamed at her more than once, out of sheer frustration. That is not reasonable or acceptable in any way. This is not the environment I want to be living in and unless you’re paying my bills or giving me orgasms, I won’t even acknowledge the possibility of fighting to the point of screaming. Yet, there I was.
The leasing office told me they could hold the unit for no more than 5 days. Meaning, if I wanted this unit, I needed to have my deposit and first months rent in their hands by February 25th, 2023. And if I wanted that specific unit, I needed to submit my application within 24 hours. Talk about an effing whirlwind. This is something I had wanted for years. Before the toxic man-disaster, before the boyfriend of far too many years and I even split, I had fantasies of truly living alone. Just me. No roommates, no partners. (Sometimes a girl just needs her space.) And here I was, taking steps to make it happen. For a person who suffers of lack mentality, a pervasive scarcity complex, and a constant questioning of self-worthiness, this was huge. I was believing in myself in ways I never had. I stayed in an unhealthy, rotting relationship for at least 12 years too long because I didn’t believe I could stand on my own two feet, and here I was. Not only standing but thriving!
And then, the old ways came for blood!
To be continued …